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Ame's avatar

"To let someone be themselves fully and subsequently choose you is about a million times more gratifying than stifling someone’s independence and obligating them to your needs."

What a beautifully written thought. It hit me deep, thank you! ♥

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Ashley Shaw's avatar

"Love is not something you can jealously guard, it is something that you must give freedom to."

That's such a beautiful expression, and as someone who has realized that polyamory is much more healthy for me and my relationships, it really hits home.

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Love seeing the Pike Place Market sign in your collages!

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Rachel Taylor's avatar

Ahhh I honestly felt sick to my stomach for a second reading this , the part where your naked body pressed next to his , having this kind of conversation. I can understand your exact feelings and the bravery in letting go. All those micro emotions in the process ! Been there in the past in my own journey.

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Angela Briggs's avatar

This is so accurate! The best relationship of my life comes with being seen, freedom to be ourselves, and really wonderful boundaries around our needs. I love this for you!

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Lydia Laws's avatar

'Love is not something you can jealously guard, it is something that you must give freedom to.' Love this sooo much. And love the way you write! So invested in this story. Thanks for sharing it with us!

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Steph's avatar

This is fucking beautiful. <3

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Jeb.et's avatar

I really enjoyed reading this and also learning on how to approach dating. Thank you for sharing.

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Caitlin's avatar

A) I am so enjoying this format

B) You are inspiring me - not just to embrace myself fully, but also to embrace my creativity. I'm not sure what that looks like at the moment, but I feel a creative energy crackling, and seeing you explore yours makes me excited to explore mine.

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Violet Clair's avatar

Hey Caitlin,

I am so glad to hear this!!! Really keeps me going as well. Thank you!

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Shae's avatar

I am in such awe of this retelling. I always want to think I wild respond in this elevated way but not feeling chosen is such a strong trigger. And for you to say “maybe you can reschedule with her” and mean it! Claps claps. What a beautiful milestone in a journey towards peace and allowance.

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